r/NoStupidQuestions • u/IdeaExpensive3073 • 27d ago
How is it women notice men checking them out but I’ve never noticed women doing it to men, and especially me?
Note: I’ve been told that they were checking me out before, so I know it’s happening.
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u/quantipede 27d ago
I think partially it’s self doubt; I had a customer in line a few weeks ago who made a couple little jokes and seemed excited talking to me and I thought she was very friendly, and when I was done ringing her up the girl in line behind her told me I should’ve asked for her number because she was totally flirting with me. Still not sure if that was the case though cause I don’t know why an attractive nurse would’ve been at all interested in a sad looking skinny and scruffy barista.
On the flip side of things it also feels a lot like guessing, cause later I had a woman doing almost the same thing so I was like oh! I get it now! And she followed me on Instagram, so I worked up the courage to message her and after a bit of small talk asked her if she wanted to hang out or get coffee or something and got…left on read. lol. So I have truly given up trying to understand flirtation and unless somebody straight up says they’re flirting im always just going to have to treat my instincts as a very bad guess