r/NoStupidQuestions • u/IdeaExpensive3073 • 27d ago

How is it women notice men checking them out but I’ve never noticed women doing it to men, and especially me?

Note: I’ve been told that they were checking me out before, so I know it’s happening.

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u/manism 27d ago

Way back in the day this girl invited me to a party at her place. Towards the end of the night I had sobered up and helped them clean up, and she said, "You should sleep on the couch, its super late."

I was like, "I live 5 minutes away, I'll be fine." She insisted, I said I'd rather sleep in a bed, she said I could sleep in her bed. Again I was like, "It's five minutes, I'm not gonna put you out of your bed for a five minute drive."

Went home, had a good night's sleep, woke up and immediately realized I was an idiot

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u/AGM-Prism 27d ago

Nah bro she said you could sleep in her bed?! Definitely fumbled 😭

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u/kyrgyzmcatboy 26d ago

Generational level fumble.

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u/Baronvondorf21 25d ago

The ancestors felt that one.

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u/Kayd3nBr3ak 27d ago

I really hope you shot up gasping song "FUCK I'M AN IDIOT! "

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u/EventEastern9525 26d ago

Any man who is honest with himself has a similar story. I’ve got several. Just didn’t understand the signs at that stage of life.

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u/IAmTheNightSoil 26d ago

I'm glad you said this because I once had a girl I really liked invite me to crash in her bed and I didn't connect the dots or make any move, and I've always felt uniquely stupid for this and assumed no other dude on earth would have been as clueless as me in that moment haha

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u/chickenthinkseggwas 26d ago

A girl once told me "I'm about to proposition you" after I made her laugh. I ignored that, because I simply couldn't make sense of it.

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u/Suspicious-Brick 26d ago

My current boyfriend did this. Offered him to stay on the sofa after a bbq and he made his excuses and went home. In the end (a few weeks later) I had to ask him 'are you ever going to kiss me?' ! It's now a bit of a joke between us. He had no idea what was going on despite fancying me until I asked him directly about kissing me. Sometimes the art of flirtation and subtlety is just a lost art!

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u/No-Humor-5951 26d ago

Been there.

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u/mnid92 26d ago

In a roundabout weird way, you did the right thing. Had a buddy hook up with a drunk chick that led to him getting SA charges because the girl said she didn't remember. Neither did he, but hey, that's how that stuff goes.