r/AITAH • u/throwawayyy6178 • 28d ago

AITA for holding my ex-husband’s hand at our son’s funeral? Advice Needed

Recently, my ex-husband (35M) and I (33F) experienced the devastating loss of our son. In the midst of our grief, we found comfort in each other's presence and shared memories.

During the funeral service, I reached out and held my ex-husband's hand for support, which seemed natural given the circumstances. However, his current wife (34F) said that it's inappropriate to show affection towards an ex-spouse. While I understand her perspective, I felt it was a moment of shared grief.

AITA for holding my ex-husband's hand after losing our son?

Edit: So many wonderful people have reached out to me, it’s helped me feel less alone, so thank you. I appreciate all the kind words.

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u/Electrical_Worker_88 28d ago

NTA For holding someone’s hand during a funeral. Holding someone’s hand is not cheating. For making a funeral about her, your husband’s new wife is next level of the asshole.

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u/throwawayyy6178 28d ago

Thank you. I found out this morning that she’s threatening divorce and thinks we’re still in love with one another and that this loss is gonna magically bring us back together. I just wanna grieve without her drama.

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u/Revolutionary-Gap420 27d ago

She's more than an asshole. What a fking c*nt

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u/SiameseTaint 27d ago

That was exactly my thoughts on the wife... what a heartless c#nt! OPs ex is better off without her. I mean, who in their right mind would find that the parents, who've just lost a child, holding hands would mean anything other than shared grief over this devastating loss? SMH

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u/Ok-Courage-5127 27d ago

Yeah the See you next Tuesday tag does apply in this case