r/AITAH • u/throwawayyy6178 • 28d ago

AITA for holding my ex-husband’s hand at our son’s funeral? Advice Needed

Recently, my ex-husband (35M) and I (33F) experienced the devastating loss of our son. In the midst of our grief, we found comfort in each other's presence and shared memories.

During the funeral service, I reached out and held my ex-husband's hand for support, which seemed natural given the circumstances. However, his current wife (34F) said that it's inappropriate to show affection towards an ex-spouse. While I understand her perspective, I felt it was a moment of shared grief.

AITA for holding my ex-husband's hand after losing our son?

Edit: So many wonderful people have reached out to me, it’s helped me feel less alone, so thank you. I appreciate all the kind words.

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u/DaniCapsFan 28d ago

This wasn't a show of affection but a show of solidarity and comfort in your shared grief.

I'm sorry for your loss.

NTA

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u/Square_Band9870 27d ago

Agreed! NTA. These two people shared the unimaginable loss of their young child. No one else in that room probably experienced the grief they shared.

Also, what is wrong with showing affection??? It’s not sexual attraction or intention. Of course the former spouse would at least be kind in that situation. OP’s experience was 100% normal human behavior. Don’t make new wife’s insecurities your problem.

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u/Runningoutofideas_81 27d ago

Men who are platonic friends hold hands in other cultures.

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u/50CentButInNickels 27d ago

When I was more of a drinker, I kissed one of my guy friends on the top of the head. It's just a bro thing. 🤣