r/NoStupidQuestions • u/IdeaExpensive3073 • 27d ago

How is it women notice men checking them out but I’ve never noticed women doing it to men, and especially me?

Note: I’ve been told that they were checking me out before, so I know it’s happening.

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u/pointlessPuta 27d ago

Speaking as a man who has had this happen a few times, I think it's because I don't consider myself a catch. Since I've been going out to bars and places with my best girl friend who is gay she is letting me know I'm being eyed up and is the best wingman ever!

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u/eyaf20 27d ago

Exactly. If I even begin to think someone might be looking at me, I'll make an excuse for why that's not the case. I don't want to assume and then make someone uncomfortable by shudders looking back their way

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u/pointlessPuta 27d ago

Yeah that's how I feel, i don't want to creep anyone out. I've never made the first move with anyone so I'll doubt I'll change now in my 50s